tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19367529959020476192011-11-27T17:04:38.648-08:00<b>OVERCOME SEX ADDICTION SUCCESSFULLY</b>jay bainesnoreply@blogger.comBlogger261100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936752995902047619.post-25814219881560937712009-08-05T18:30:00.000-07:002011-06-30T14:06:51.553-07:00

This Website Will Help You Understand Sex Addiction Know Yourself Without Hating Yourself Where To Begin To Correctly Overcome Sex Addiction Explain Why Other Methods/Approaches Fail Why Overcoming Sex Addiction Makes The Best Sex Possible An addiction is like banging your head against the wall, it feels good when you stop.  Sex Addiction Overview An addict continues to engage in self

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Sexual addictive feelings are more difficult to deal with than other addictive feelings because of the personal emotions and feelings involved.  If you were to ask a sex addict to just stop, it wouldn't work because he will not only feel isolated from expressing his own emotions and feelings but also sense of a loss.  Tweleve Step program treats all addicts with the same approach which in the

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Stress is an unavoidable part of life. One reason the Twelve Step approach fails is its reliance on HALT, which stands for, "Don't get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired." Everyone gets too Hungry, too Angry, too Lonely, and too Tired. It's inescapable. But the unworkable HALT approach reveals something about addictive thinking: People who act addictively believe that addictive behavior is

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-The behavior increases over time-The behavior is self destructive-The behavior causes harms to others-The behavior is used to alter moods-The behavior is just a quick empty high An addiction is behavior a person cannot control that leads to harmful consequences. The behavior could be related to substances, such as: alcohol, drugs or food. Or it could be activity-related, involving, for example:

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-You are acting addictively.-You reach a point of disgust.-You tell yourself, "I've had it!" You make a gut-wrenching effort to stop.Or stopping doesn't take much effort because you're so sick and tired of acting addictively. -You feel better. You're happy not acting addictively. -Then one day, your mind seems to flip a switch and back you go to your addiction. -You can't stand going back. But

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There are no "positive" addictions. All addictions have bad consequences in some way or form. Contrary to the great belief everybody has a "vice", there are millions of people who are not addicted to anything. Not because their parents "raised" them good or they grew up in a "good" environment, or because they do not have a "disease", it is because of their choices. One of my clients, who I

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Sex addiction impacts heavily on a person’s every aspect of his or her life. It is also very complicated. Unlike other addictions there are many different types of sex addictions including masturbation, porn, promiscuity, infidelity, phone sex, pedophile, nymphomania, strip clubs, prostitutes. Before a problem can be solved you have to know what you dealing with. In other words before trying to

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The person who is struggling to overcome sex addiction can overcome their addiction if stopped correctly. Not only their life improves overall, their sex life greatly improves also. Twelve-steppers and psychotherapists advise sex addicts to refrain from all forms of sex including having loving sex with their partners for certain amount of time in hope of stopping their sex addictions. That leads

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Pornography Addiction Porn addiction is usually fueled by masturbation addiction. There are very rare men who use porn without masturbation. Many women in a relationship feel that their partner’s use of porn is adultery. However, men do not believe they have committed adultery. An addiction to pornography can not be overcome immediately. To understand porn addiction one has to understand what is

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You can overcome the discomfort of withdrawal in a relatively short period of time and make the experience positive. Or you can suffer in withdrawal. The pain can go on for months - and you will most likely return to the addictive behavior rather than continue in pain. The difference between a positive, successful withdrawal and a painful, unsuccessful one is in the approach you take. Behavior

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The sexually addicted person whose relationships are defined by sexual addiction is unaware of the joy and love s/he is missing out on in real life. The sexually addicted person whose sexual addiction is in conflict with a committed relationship may not understand that his/her sexual addiction is actually a rejection of the person who loves them. Millions of sexually addicted people have lost

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Your partner’s sex addiction is not caused by you, in anyway, it is caused by his choices. You feel like you need to go against his sex addiction. It is his problem not yours. If he admits his problem that he is sexually addicted, he can be helped but if he does not want to admit his problem then his defenses can be broken through with help and proper guidance for you. If you try to break his

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Someone who has never had a good relationship needs to find out why they are having difficulty building an intimate relationship. Your bigger problem is not your sex addiction. Your bigger problem is lack of intimacy. Building a relationship takes time and effort. Sex addiction is easy. You can turn on the fantasy world, get sexual satisfaction and stay in the house. One thing I can tell you is

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"I hate being out of control". "The addiction is ruining my life"."I don't want to feel depressed from acting addictively"."I don't like feeling guilty"."I don't like feeling Insecure"."I hate losing time to my addiction"."The addiction is financially ruining me". Yet, People still act addictively because they do not know how to overcome it. By nature we do not have control over our addictions.

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If you are using any form of willpower to stop your sex addiction, not only will you fail, your addiction will get worse. Here’s why. You have been acting addictively for years. You have trained your mind that addiction is a necessity for survival and happiness. Because you have trained your mind that addiction is a need for survival and happiness, when you use willpower to stop, you conflict

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One of the greatest myths about overcoming addiction is the belief spread by the Twelve Step Program and conventional, licensed therapy that "You have to hit bottom before you can overcome it." Not only that it doesn't work, Hitting bottom gives you the perverse incentive to continue indulging in self-destructive behavior in the hope that someday you will find bottom and then be able to stop.

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Most sex addicts get so sick and tired of their sex addiction that they waste most of their lives looking for a fast "in and out" cure to stop, unfortunately a fast "in and out" cure does not exist. It takes time to overcome a sex addiction. Instead of looking for that fast "in and out" cure look for comptent help, who can help you correctly stop your sex addiction and stay stopped through out

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A Treatment Center When you check into a treatment center you remain there 3 to 6 months for addiction “treatment“. You are removed from all your stresses and worries of your life. You are treated lavishly. You usually don’t act addictively. When you leave the clinic you usually feel good. They charge you from $8,000 to $15,000. When you get back home all the stresses and worries of your life you

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Stress, diseases, brain chemicals, traumas in childhood, bad environment, lousy parents, addicted personality. If you blame all or any of these for the cause of your addiction and you want to stop for good, forget about it. None of the listed above are the cause of your addiction. If you want to know who causes your addiction, take a look in the mirror. Your addiction began with your choices, it

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*Sexual addictions including masturbation, pornography, prostitutes, infidelity, promiscuity, fetish, phone sex, cyber sex *Illegal drugs, including heroin, cocaine, crack, methamphetamines *Prescription medications, including Prozac, Wellbutrin, Lithium, Zoloft, Paxil, Xanax, Ambien *Overeating, including junk food, caffeine addiction, sugar addiction *Tobacco *Alcohol *Gambling *

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Letter from a client written Aug. 2009 Dear Jay, I started masturbating after I was molested by a close relative when I was only twelve. As the years went by I started watching online porn and went from masturbating on weekly basis to everyday. When I got my first job I couldn’t wait to get my paychecks and spend money on porn DVDs. I felt awful spending money on my addiction. I was so much

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Please feel free to ask any questions at jaybaines30@yahoo.com or call (206) 337- 6951 Ask for Jay Ok I’m addicted to sex, what can I do? You can continue to indulge in your sexually addictive behavior while destroying everything important in your life or you can get help. You can try to stop it on your own but look in the past you have tried and failed numerous times in the past. If you

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It will be my pleasure to spend half hour talking to you and advising you about your addiction problems at no charge. I will try to help you. Even if we never talk again, you will find that the time you and I spend speaking to each other will be beneficial to you. To Schedule An Online Session At No Charge, Send A Messege Via: Phone:(206)337-6951 Ask for Jay (Mon-Sun 11AM to 4PM PST) EMAIL:

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Here’s what to expect from this counseling: You've probably stopped your sexually addictive behavior before, probably more than once. You may have stopped for a day, a few months, or even a few years, yet you returned to the behavior. What you're looking for this time is a method that will help you to stay stopped once you stop. Instead of spending most of your time contemplating what's wrong,

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Overcoming an addiction is one of the most rewarding things a person can do. I know because I overcame four addictions myself with the approach I have been teaching my clients to overcome their addictions for over 15 years. My approach is so effective and fast that I still use it to help people overcome their addictions. My approach will enable you to stay in control under any circumstances once

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